If you have a persistent theme or wound that is coming up for you that you don’t seem to be able to shift, it can be helpful to ask the following:
How am I perpetuating the aggravation of this wound? Are you showing up for yourself or are you attempting to sweep your needs under the rug? Are you making poor choices that keep the wound active or are you creating a safe space for healing to occur? Are you pushing against the issue or are you compassionately approaching it from a space of acceptance, healing, and love?
What am I yearning for that only I can give myself? It may be that the one thing you want more than anything is your own love and affection. By denying that you could be keeping abandonment/worthiness issues active. Love yourself enough to be there for any wounded aspects of self as many times as it takes for them to settle into safe attachment with you as you assume the role of your own guide, parent, and trusted friend.
Am I holding onto victim consciousness/powerlessness? We are not suggesting you negate what has happened to you in your past. You can absolutely acknowledge that what happened to you was not right or appropriate or deserved and still decide to drop the rope that keeps you tethered to that old story so you can finally embrace the full potential of your Now moment. Is it time to move out of pushing against your past so that healing can truly occur in the present?
Do you identify yourself more through the challenges and/or what’s happened to you or do you identify more with your wholeness and pure potential? Pay attention to what you talk about. If you keep referring back to something in your past, there is something that is still active there that is looking to be acknowledged and soothed by you. It is absolutely possible to gently and lovingly explore what that is until it receives exactly what it needs from you. Are you ready to move beyond the energy of surviving the past into the energy of thriving in the present?
You are doing such a magnificent job of moving through the rapid shifts you have been experiencing on your planet. Creating the sacred and safe space as the empowered facilitator of your own healing is the final frontier you have entered, and from there all things are possible. ~Archangel Gabriel through Shelley Young