Bless
our hearts! The questions I’ve been getting over the last two weeks all
have the same painful theme at their core, which is the sudden loss of
something or someone that felt extremely important. Whether it be of a
coveted job, a friendship, or most often, the heartbreak of losing a
lovemate, the suddenness of the loss has felt to many like a
“suckerpunch from out of the blue,” as one questioner succintly put it.
So, I decided to post one of these questions as an illustration of this
“lost and found” process of transition that we’re in. Then, of course, I
immediately realized that, as the energies of the Aries New Moon are
urging us to let go of the last of our attachments to all that no longer
“fits” us at this very moment… and with April at the ready to sweep us
into a month of rapid-fire growth… it is no “accident” that I decided to
do that right NOW.Question: The relationship I have invested every drop of my love and energy in has suddenly ended. My partner decided to move on, that’s all, and apparently wasn’t ever really committed to what I thought was “us.” This seems surreal, like the whole thing was nothing more than a figment of my imagination. I’m so floored that I don’t know if I can recover from this. Did I just fall into a whole different, nasty, timeline or something?
My Response: Believe me, I understand your feeling that you don’t know how you’ll recover– with all my heart, I do! But as I tune into your frequencies through your question, I want to share my perspective, not only about why you feel that way, but about what seems to have happened. You may be surprised to learn that your perceptions are not far off the mark from mine– only the “meanings” are different. As always, however, if any aspects of my perspective do not resonate with yours, just let them go right by you.
For one thing, “surreal” is an apt description for what you are experiencing. The relationship you were in was not your imagination, at least not anymore than any other “reality” is. All “reality” is illusion, remember, based on the frequencies we imbue it with. When our frequencies shift, so does our “reality.”
Secondly, you did not “fall into a nasty timeline,” you moved out of one that has become too limiting for you! And yes, when we cling to the old one in our temporary state of confusion, it can be very painful until we get ourselves realigned and “up to speed.”
From my perspective, it seems that you and your partner connected at a point when your timelines converged. However, as you expanded into LOVE, he contracted in fear. So, it is as if you came to a crossroads in your shared timeline, and each chose a different road. In a very “real” way, you are, in fact, now in two different “versions of reality.”
Will you RE-cover? No. At least, I hope not, because I’m sensing you will UN-cover a richer perception of your own value and worth than ever before. You see, as you expanded, your partner was not able to perceive or appreciate your evolving recognition of your own value, let alone your expanding capacity to LOVE. Instead, to put it in very basic, colloquial language– whether consciously or not, he began to feel “small,” and so decided you were “too much for him.” (Of course, he is not “small,” either… just not ready to “grow into himself” quite yet, and probably for very good reasons.)
Trust that as you get your bearings in your new, higher frequencies, you will “see” what has happened from an equally new, higher perspective, and not only accept, but appreciate his choice. You will then lovingly and easily be able to allow the “perceived separation” between you to be as it is… knowing that relationships never truly end, and that new ones that “match” our frequencies continue to begin… as, and when, the “timing” is right.
Best of all, you will be able to expand into more joyfully expressive ways of “being,” and be very glad you had the courage to choose that expansion. You will “see” how attempting to “stay small” for the sake of another would not have served either of you. On the other hand, your choice to expand was of very great service, for you offered the example, as well as the energy template of that choice, for him to experience, and even use, when and if he chooses.
So, well done! Breathe your way through your transition, dearest heart, LOVE yourself through it… then watch what begins to happen… slowly and barely noticably at first, as when new shoots just begin to peek through the earth, and then evermore rapidly as they transform the very terrain with their growth. And never forget that no one, and nothing, is EVER lost. As we expand, there is only MORE… more of everything that provides us with more expanded experiences of LOVE.
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