This is the final week of July and it is going to be another
strong week for us. Venus is opposite Pluto and square Uranus,
activating the Uranus/Pluto square. While we like to think of Venus as
the goddess of love and emanating sweetness and light, this is not that
kind of energy. This is the mother who has had enough and gives you 'the
look' (as my children call it) that speaks volumes without saying a
word. When you get 'the look' you know it's time to quietly go to your
room or stop acting up.
We know that the feminine energy has its dark side and we may just see some of that this week. We can be powerful without overpowering others, we can be in control without being controlling, we can be dominant without dominating and this is where we are now, finding the balance point where we are in our power in self affirming ways that don't limit others' choices but do limit how their choices impact us. This energy may empower you to end an unfulfilling, unrewarding, or challenging life situation. You can't make others change, but you can change what you allow in your life. Just remember to release and cut the cords with dignity, so you do it in a powerful and empowered way.
The changes are unrelenting and what will get us through them is discernment. We can choose any experience that we want from among the many that come forward, what we choose depends on what serves us best in each moment. And what we resonate with will be what we are aware of, no matter what other options are available. With Mars in Scorpio, our experiences can be intense but again, by practicing discernment, we can minimize the drama and bypass the chaos. It's going to be there, we just don't have to choose it.
Boundaries and limits have been a big topic in the past few weeks and their importance increases now as we have so much energy available to us. We manage our energy by having strong boundaries, and limits refer to what we resonate with and have the capacity to process. When we set clear boundaries we fine tune our ability to manifest our reality. Limits let us know how far we can go in any experience and they become our limitations when we allow use them to make fear-based choices. What's the difference? That's the topic of this week's message.
Imagine yourself without boundaries, where anyone and anything can enter your life at will and do whatever they want to do. Have you ever had no boundaries with someone? They do not respect you and do whatever they want to do and you tolerate it, until you reach the moment where you can no longer do so. Then you react in anger and blame them for mistreating you but it isn’t their fault, you had no boundaries, no way of communicating to them what you consider to be acceptable behavior, and how you expect people to act around you. Do you have boundaries for the amount and type of respect, honor, and love you want from others? Is it time to set some boundaries? They may not make others change their behavior, but they will remove the people who don’t respect and honor you from your life.
Limits represent the most or the least that we will do in a situation. For example, I enjoy many outdoor activities but I don’t like camping. So while I will go hiking, kayaking, and spend time in nature, I won’t do activities that include camping. What are your limits with the situations and people in your life? What are you willing to do and where do you draw the line? It’s important to know our limits because they, with boundaries, teach people how to act around us. They represent the energetic price of admission for everyone and everything we connect with or who want to connect with us.
Limits become limitations when we are afraid to allow change and transformation to occur. If we limit ourselves to what we have known in the past, then anything new becomes part of a fear zone that we are afraid to enter. Boundaries become walls when are afraid that we have to defend ourselves against people and situations. That only happens when we aren’t grounded in our own energy and don’t respect our own boundaries. If we, for example, are so concerned that people won’t like us, then we will willingly remove our boundaries to have the love we want from others, whether or not they are a good fit energetically.
We need boundaries and limits to be clear in our intention for our lives. It doesn’t serve anyone when we are without boundaries because without them, we attract people and situations from our fears, rather than from our highest energies. We also need to know and respect our limits, those things that we do not want to do or do not believe we can do, without allowing them to become limitations. And we need to respect others’ boundaries and limits too, honoring their choices whether or not we agree with them, allowing what resonates and is aligned with us to joyfully connect with us and everything that does not, to move on along its own path.
And in case you were wondering, I have been camping before and it’s because of my former camping experiences that I won’t do it any more. I prefer a soft bed, hot shower, and room service for breakfast.
We know that the feminine energy has its dark side and we may just see some of that this week. We can be powerful without overpowering others, we can be in control without being controlling, we can be dominant without dominating and this is where we are now, finding the balance point where we are in our power in self affirming ways that don't limit others' choices but do limit how their choices impact us. This energy may empower you to end an unfulfilling, unrewarding, or challenging life situation. You can't make others change, but you can change what you allow in your life. Just remember to release and cut the cords with dignity, so you do it in a powerful and empowered way.
The changes are unrelenting and what will get us through them is discernment. We can choose any experience that we want from among the many that come forward, what we choose depends on what serves us best in each moment. And what we resonate with will be what we are aware of, no matter what other options are available. With Mars in Scorpio, our experiences can be intense but again, by practicing discernment, we can minimize the drama and bypass the chaos. It's going to be there, we just don't have to choose it.
Boundaries and limits have been a big topic in the past few weeks and their importance increases now as we have so much energy available to us. We manage our energy by having strong boundaries, and limits refer to what we resonate with and have the capacity to process. When we set clear boundaries we fine tune our ability to manifest our reality. Limits let us know how far we can go in any experience and they become our limitations when we allow use them to make fear-based choices. What's the difference? That's the topic of this week's message.
Boundaries & Limits - Keys to Freedom
I have always said that boundaries are a good thing and we should practice them every day because they help us manage our energy. We use boundaries to stay aligned with what we want to be and have in our lives, and what serves us best. While we tend to think of them as a means of keeping people and things out of our lives, they really don’t. Instead, they act as the energetic admission criteria for our connections. Limits represent how far we can or are willing to go in any situation and they become limitations when they prevent us from moving forward. Together, boundaries and limits are our keys to freedom because they help us manage our energy, who we connect with and who connects with us, what we allow into our lives and what we reject.Imagine yourself without boundaries, where anyone and anything can enter your life at will and do whatever they want to do. Have you ever had no boundaries with someone? They do not respect you and do whatever they want to do and you tolerate it, until you reach the moment where you can no longer do so. Then you react in anger and blame them for mistreating you but it isn’t their fault, you had no boundaries, no way of communicating to them what you consider to be acceptable behavior, and how you expect people to act around you. Do you have boundaries for the amount and type of respect, honor, and love you want from others? Is it time to set some boundaries? They may not make others change their behavior, but they will remove the people who don’t respect and honor you from your life.
Limits represent the most or the least that we will do in a situation. For example, I enjoy many outdoor activities but I don’t like camping. So while I will go hiking, kayaking, and spend time in nature, I won’t do activities that include camping. What are your limits with the situations and people in your life? What are you willing to do and where do you draw the line? It’s important to know our limits because they, with boundaries, teach people how to act around us. They represent the energetic price of admission for everyone and everything we connect with or who want to connect with us.
Limits become limitations when we are afraid to allow change and transformation to occur. If we limit ourselves to what we have known in the past, then anything new becomes part of a fear zone that we are afraid to enter. Boundaries become walls when are afraid that we have to defend ourselves against people and situations. That only happens when we aren’t grounded in our own energy and don’t respect our own boundaries. If we, for example, are so concerned that people won’t like us, then we will willingly remove our boundaries to have the love we want from others, whether or not they are a good fit energetically.
We need boundaries and limits to be clear in our intention for our lives. It doesn’t serve anyone when we are without boundaries because without them, we attract people and situations from our fears, rather than from our highest energies. We also need to know and respect our limits, those things that we do not want to do or do not believe we can do, without allowing them to become limitations. And we need to respect others’ boundaries and limits too, honoring their choices whether or not we agree with them, allowing what resonates and is aligned with us to joyfully connect with us and everything that does not, to move on along its own path.
And in case you were wondering, I have been camping before and it’s because of my former camping experiences that I won’t do it any more. I prefer a soft bed, hot shower, and room service for breakfast.
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