In more than 20 years of writing and over 5000 articles I have never discussed the topic of people and situations that disrupt our energy in one single article as I am going to do today. This is a difficult topic because we all have one or more of these energy disruptors in our lives. Whether it’s the family that rejects or judges you, friends who betray you, work or business colleagues who steal your work (I have a lot of experience in this area), people who are deliberately mean to you, are jealous of you, or who try to put you down in any way, or situations that drag you down, this is a very common occurrence in our lives.
What do we do about them? Some of these situations we cannot just leave and walk away from. Other situations and people must be confronted and dealt with. And some of these situations have no happy or benevolent outcome. Sometimes we react with anger to these situations that are so unfair and so undeserved and sometimes we let them create depression and helplessness. It is true that there may be nothing we can do about them, as they continue despite our best efforts, but we can make ourselves immune to their actions.
There is nothing that we can do about someone’s bad behavior because we cannot change what others think, say, or do. But we can learn to be aware of their behavior, prepare ourselves for it, arm ourselves against these energy disruptors, and learn to be energetically powerful and sovereign in spite of them.
This is where good intentions and our spiritual integrity meet the ugly side of 3D reality. If we are doing our work and doing the right things, shouldn’t we be able to avoid these kinds of situations? No, there has never been a promise of easy, trouble-free living with our spiritual work. And often the opposite is the case. The more involved we are in our spiritual work, the higher our frequency and vibration, the more committed we are to following the ascension path, the more we have to deal with these energy disruptors.
Blame it on the brightness of your light or the beauty of your energy frequency, we will have to deal with unpleasant people and situations that appear to have a singular purpose, to bring our energy down. It’s everywhere and even the spiritual community is full of these people and sad to say, the greed, jealousy, and sabotage that exists amongst spiritual teachers and workers can be disappointing.
Karen Bishop, who wrote the What’s Up on Planet Earth blog for many years, she quit writing after being frustrated with people stealing her work. It has happened to me too but I don’t quit, I go after these people and often prosecute them in court. I’ll share some of my stories of energy disruptors later in this article as an example of how this happens and what you can do about it. It’s a tough situation and it is very unfair to us but it happens and we need to deal with it.
Let’s start with the energy dimmer disruptor. These are people who force us to dim our lights because they simply cannot
tolerate the fact that we outshine them in every way. We do not do it deliberately – we can’t help it if our light is bright but they do not see it that way. In their world, our bright light is a threat to their very existence so they make it impossible for us to shine. We learn to coexist with them by dimming our light , by being less of who we are so that we can be tolerable to them. This may work in the short term but in the longer term it is unsustainable to us because we are never operating at 100% of our energetic frequency and vibration when we constantly dim our light. You know the light dimmers, they are the people who judge and criticize you, who always find fault with you, who tell you that you are wrong, that you are not good enough, and who make you feel inadequate in so many ways. Just hearing their name makes you cringe and turns your stomach in knots.
Now what they say is just the opposite of what they actually feel because they think you are better, stronger, more talented, more capable, smarter, and better than they are in every way. They are so insecure about their own energy that they think the only way to maintain their own frequency and vibration in your presence is to force you to dim your light. And to accommodate them, because they are generally people you are close to, like friends, partners, or family, you do just that.
What happens if you don’t dim your light for them? They may reject you; they won’t like you, they won’t talk to you, or will deliberately betray, humiliate, or abandon or hurt you in some way just to spite you.
What do you do in this case? It’s up to you but I have found that the only way to deal with an energy dimmer is to stop dimming your energy because no matter what you do you will never be able to dim your light enough in order to accommodate their insecurity and their own need to shine more brightly than you do.
Do you remember the scene from the cartoon Snow White where the wicked queen asks the mirror who the fairest in the land is and the mirror answers ‘Snow White’? What does the queen do? She engages the hunter to get rid of Snow White because she cannot bear to have anyone to be more beautiful than she is. This is classic energy dimmer behavior.
And if you have experienced this in your life, and you probably have because so many of you have issues with jealous parents, siblings, friends, and others in your life, you need to be strong enough, clear enough, and confident enough in your light to let it shine no matter what they think, say, or do.
Otherwise you will live your life at a small percentage of your actual brilliance and you will know it and judge yourself for it. And if you get rejected? So what. Is it more important to you to shine or to have the approval of someone who is never going to approve of you anyway? And if someone needs for you to be less of who you are to be happy with you, why are you tolerating that kind of behavior?
The energy borrowers are another type of energy disrupter. These people never have enough energy to solve their own problems. They are always in drama, trauma, and their lives are always in some kind of continuous chaos. They ask for your help because they want support and someone to be connected to and they can make you believe that this is for the short term, just until they can deal with this current chaos. but the truth is that they have no intention of getting their own energetic resources in line because they thrive in the drama, trauma, and chaos and they manage it with borrowed energy.
These are the drama and trauma queens (and princesses, kings, and princes) in your life. The people who seem to be permanent victims in their lives. They are always having some kind of problem they need help with and usually you accommodate them because you are a nice person and that is what nice people do.
But be careful because giving energy to them is like lending money to someone who already owes you thousands of dollars and has never paid you a dime. They are not going to ever return the favor and they can’t because they either don’t have the energy to spare or don’t want to use their own energetic resources.
These are the people who like to piggyback off of your efforts, like the person who never studies for a test or does their homework and asks to cheat off of you or copy your work. I remember them from school, my answer was always no. And that meant that I wasn’t popular with the drama queens but I didn’t care. I worked hard and made the effort and I was not willing to give my hard work to someone who didn’t bother or care enough to do the work themselves.
Why do you tolerate them and fall for their tales of woe every time? Because you believe that you are helping them, that this is part of your work, that they are truly victims of life and there is something in their story that touches your own victim story. You believe that by helping them they will resolve the situation, get better, heal, become successful, and eventually acknowledge your efforts and thank you for everything you have done for them.
So you help them again and again and you wait for their success moment and for your acknowledgement and it never comes. Meanwhile, they have already made another ten appeals for your help to overcome their latest dramas and you’re right there with them, giving support and encouragement and your energy to them every step of the way.
Eventually you realize that these energy borrowers are using and manipulating you, they are preying on your fears of rejection and your desire to be liked and approved of. Then you get mad at them and at yourself for falling for their sad story and think that they should know better.
But as with the energy dimmers, their actions are very deliberate and they do not want to do better or do anything differently because they live on borrowed energy, much like someone who lives with huge amounts of debt and who keeps on buying things. Do you remember my story of the woman I worked with years ago who drove a fancy car, had designer clothes, shoes, and handbags, and who wore a $20000 fur coat?
One day she asked me to lend her $5 for lunch and I thought it was because she had left her money at home. But no, as she later admitted to me, it was because she was up to her eyeballs in debt because everything she owned was financed, and she did not have any money left until payday. Her energy borrowing took on the form of the admiration and approval she received from everyone who saw her high value lifestyle even though it was all ‘borrowed’, finance with excessive debt.
Energy borrowers will always try to borrow energy and if you say no they will find someone else. Meanwhile as long as you are willing, they will manipulate your kindness and compassion, take advantage of your own energy trauma, to continue to borrow energy from you until you say no more.
How do you deal with energy borrowers? Having strong energy boundaries does help but also realize that your unhealed energy trauma makes you vulnerable to any energy borrower because you know how it feels to be engaged in drama and trauma, how it feels to be victimized by life, so you want to help them and show them that someone cares, which you have never experienced. But by trying to be the ‘good guy’ for them, you become a victim to their tactics and they will take advantage of your own victimhood to make you their energy source.
Let’s talk about energy thieves energy disruptors and this is a topic I have a lot of experience with as do many of you. Energy thieves are people who don’t worry about trying to dim you light or borrow energy, they just steal energy from you by taking what doesn’t belong to them or putting you in a situation where you feel you have no choice but to give them your power and energy without no objection.
Energy thieves come in many shapes and sizes and one of them we see a lot of today is people who steal your work and your content and I am talking about my experience here too. If you remember I first talked about Christine Kane stealing content from me around 2014, when I found that she had stolen an entire body of work, which I was creating a program from, and which I had called ‘becoming 360’, to create a program by that name in her business, using all of my content. Of course I called her out on it but she did not stop and in fact continued to steal content from me for years, in spite of legal action I took against her, until she finally was so discredited by my continuing revelation about her constantly stealing my content that she had to close her business.
And lately I have found that Amy Porterfield is stealing content from me, and quite blatantly and openly. She has also received Cease and Desist notices from me but since she blocked me on social media I guess she thinks I don’t know what she is doing (she is wrong). Why would someone who says she has a $100 million business steal content from others? Because she doesn’t have the expertise or knowledge to create her own so she has to steal from those who are far more experienced and knowledgeable, and more creative than she is. And note here that if you think Amy Porterfield sits down every week and writes her own content, like I do, guess again. She has a staff of 30+ people and uses many contractors and they write the content for her.
Energy thieves steal from you, without hesitation and without remorse. Like energy dimmers, they are so insecure in their own abilities that they think others are far more accomplished and knowledgeable than they are and that the only way they can succeed is to take what they think they need from any available source.
I remember in October 2014 right as Christine Kane was releasing my content in her Becoming 360 program, she wrote in her blog that ‘no one can steal your energy so if they want to take your content you should let them and not worry about it.’ Was she trying to pre-empt any criticism of her actions or the fact that every bit of that program was my content, including the name? But she was stealing content and words, not energy? That is totally wrong.
Energy thieves steal your energy and worse, they try to pass off your energy as theirs, your creative spark as their own, your power as theirs. And it is 100% theft of energy on many levels. What’s really bad about it is that your work is your soul energy expression so when someone steals your writing, designs, art, music, or anything else, they are robbing you of the soul expression that is part of your life path, and the very purpose of your life.
Energy thieves are very narrow minded and myopic, focusing only on their goal and deliberately ignoring anything around them. They are terrified that someone is going to find out that they are phony, a fake, and a fraud. That they have no redeeming qualities, no talents or gifts, they are not smart or capable, and they take from those they believe have the qualities that they lack. And they are lazy – they would rather steal someone’s effort and hard work than to make an effort themselves. Just like thieves target the homes of the wealthy or of people who they think have more than they do, energy thieves believe that they have less than others and that they should be able to take what they want to compensate for their insufficiency. If we want a new tv we go to the store and buy one. A thief would find a house with a new tv and steal it. This is what energy thieves do too. They find someone who has the creativity, attention, and knowledge they want and they steal their work. Even if it means that someone finds out and calls them on it, they are surprisingly blasé about their energy stealing and will act like you owe them and they deserve it.
Have you noticed the amount of rampant stealing and criminal activity lately, with people going into stores, taking whatever they want, and walking out without paying for it? It’s interesting that as the world awakens and raises its frequency there is a part of the population that believes they should be able to steal rather than work, take what they want rather than creating their own reality and paradigms, .
No joke, it’s very frustrating to deal with someone who believes that the world and everyone in it owes them whatever they need to fill in the gaps created by their shortcomings and they do not think they are doing anything wrong by being an energy thief either. For them, whatever is available is theirs to take so they can feel accomplished and important, and there is nothing wrong with that. And you cannot convince them otherwise.
Energy thieves steal your joy, your soul energy, your creativity, your talent, and your soul expression. They will take what they want and will defend their actions even if you try to stop them.
The only way to deal with energy thieves is to be strong and confident, to continue to resist their efforts and to point out their energy theft on every occasion. Eventually the one thing they want will be denied when enough people see that they are frauds – their acclaim, approval, and importance.
Energy vampires are another form of energy disruptors and they are in a different class than energy dimmers, borrowers, or thieves, because they do not steal your energy on a continuous basis, they just appear when they need another energy injection or fix. If that sounds like someone who has some kind of addiction, you are right, the behavior is similar.
Energy vampires steal energy when they need it, when their own energy supply is low or when they see that you are rising or becoming brighter. They are attracted to bright lights and high vibrations so don’t be surprised if you have multiple energy vampires around you. What is important to know about them is they need both your energy and your anger to feel powerful. So they are not only going to try to take energy from you when they need it, they will also appear in your life when you are successful or enjoying a special occasion or celebration and they will swoop in and start their vampirish activities, trying to feed from your joy and make you smaller and unhappy at the same time.
An energy vampire wants you to feel good so they have a supply of energy when they need it so they will appear to be supportive and even admire you at different times. Don’t be fooled by their acts of kindness or support, they have an agenda that they are following. Then, when you least expect it, they will attack, belittle, or humiliate you at your most powerful or joyful moment. Does this remind you of anyone in your life?
I have experienced this all of my life from various people I know and it took me a long time to understand what was happening and to be able to predict the moments of support followed by the judgment, humiliation, and put downs. Now it doesn’t affect me because I won’t let it but I suffered for years before I understood this and could take proactive action against it.
Is someone in your life a ‘frenemy’, someone who supports you and then doesn’t, who acts like a friend at times and at other times is unkind or mean? That’s an energy vampire. To protect yourself against them you have to recognize who your true friends are and who are the ones who are building you up so they can bring you down and vampirize your energy. I know this sounds really terrible but it’s true and it’s how energy vampires work.
Use this information as a source of empowerment, not as a source of despair or depression. There will always be people in your life who act like this and they will be attracted to your light and energy but you must have strong enough energy boundaries to prevent them from using your energy, and bringing you down in the process.
The actions of energy disruptors can be a mystery to us. Why are they doing this? We know that everyone has the same source of energy and access to energy so why don’t they just use their own energy resources? The answer to that question is not simple and it involves beliefs and past life issues, including our karma with them and our own personal karma journey. If you’re plagued by energy disruptors in this lifetime, it’s definitely one of your life lessons to learn to rise above them and to overcome their lies and deception and not let it bring you down.
Energy disruptors, especially energy thieves, have an agenda and they can be quite sneaky. In fact they can look like highly successful people but in reality their success is based on others’ hard work. Do you remember the author Rachel Hollis who was accused of plagiarism on her blog and who claimed a famous quote by Maya Angelou was hers?
In Snow White the wicked queen was already beautiful. Why did it matter that Snow White was beautiful too?
I remember being shocked when I found out about Christine Kane’s content theft because she had a successful business. She was well regarded as a business coach and had been a successful musician prior to that business. She had a big audience and a lot of followers. So why was she stealing my content? Well, it turns out she had been stealing from me for several years before 2014, as I discovered in my research so her business success was ‘stolen success’.
And when I found out Amy Porterfield was stealing content from several of my programs I was truly mystified. Here’s someone who claims to be the expert, who claims to have made over $100 million her business, who has a successful business and podcast, who is well regarded in her field, and who is stealing my content. And not really hiding it because I identified the content theft because she used my exact program names and wording from the program. That was a surprise to me but I have taken legal action against her and she will stop or become involved in a very public and embarrassing copyright infringement and intellectual property theft lawsuit.
Many of you know my position on this issue and it’s not a secret that I am vehemently opposed to any theft of content, intellectual property misappropriation, and energy disruption like this. I have been very public about it because I know how disruptive it is. I also know that in my lifetime timeline I have suffered greatly from energy disruptors and I am not going to allow them to take advantage of me and of my energy.
And I encourage you to not allow it in your life either. Energy boundaries are important as is your willingness to claim your light, energy, your work, and your efforts and refuse to let anyone dim your light, steal your energy, limit you in any way, or vampirize your energy.
Your presence is too valuable and too precious, your work too important, to let anyone stand in your way so shine on and step up because we will stop this when we refuse to allow it and make sure that every energy disruptor is quickly stopped.
And for those of you that have this happening in your personal lives, you should know that you deserve the ‘love, honor, and respect’ you want and a label doesn’t bestow upon someone the right to be mean, unkind, or rude to you, to betray you, put you down, treat you badly, or make you think you are not good enough.
Take strong, decisive action against your energy disruptors and get used to shining at your highest light because your energy disruptors may be a life lesson but they do not have to be a life sentence.
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