One of the most profound shifts you will make on your spiritual journey is taking your focus from externals and placing it on yourself. This is self responsibility. From this space of self responsibility comes developing the skill of self love.
Yes, self love is a skill to develop if you have not been taught to include yourself in your own love and care. Most of you were raised in households where loving others was valued but loving yourself was never mentioned, so it may feel foreign to you to develop a self love practice. That is ok! It is never too late to learn a new skill.
If you have been conditioned to think that sacrificing yourself for others is noble and that self care is selfish, you will have to very consciously use your awareness and consistency to develop the skill of self love. Let us reassure you that self love is not selfish. Self love does not mean you put yourself above others and throw everyone else to the wolves. It simply means you are now also including yourself in your love and consideration.
This is in no way about exclusion, it is about inclusion. It is about fairness. It is about making yourself equally important as everyone else. It is about understanding that you cannot shift into unconditional love and unity consciousness and leave yourself out at the same time. It is about simply being the love to everyone, and that means you, too. ~Archangel Gabriel through Shelley Young