For enlightening human beings, how you interact with your family members and significant others can be the most challenging area to transform. This is because it is the area where your conditioning is greatest, and old habits can be well established, running automatically without your conscious awareness.
So how do you address this? Just like with any other area you wish to evolve, with intention, your true desire to change, and greater awareness. The key is to step out of automatic responses, into more conscious interaction. Try to be more aware. If you catch yourself reacting unconsciously, stop and feel into the situation. Is this an old pattern that doesn’t even match who you are anymore? How would you like to approach this now, based on your latest level of attainment?
If you have already reacted in an old way that doesn’t match how you would like to approach things now, simply address it in that moment. Apologize and readjust. This is a powerful act of shifting the energy.
Consciously practice empathy for your loved ones. Try to look at them with new eyes and feel into their perspective. Take an observant role. What are they afraid of? What are they struggling with? What do they need to feel safe and loved? What can you do to break the old pattern of interaction?
Practice self awareness. What is looking to be acknowledged and healed within yourself to release these old patterns? Are you practicing self care? The more aligned and balanced you are, the more you will be able to stay in an empowered space while interacting with those you love.
Last, we suggest you be the love. Being the love doesn’t mean you accept being treated inappropriately by anyone. It is never loving to support someone in showing up in such a limited version of self. Sometimes it is necessary to anchor love and make the choice to love someone from afar until they can learn to interact in ways that are more appropriate. Holding the space with boundaries that support wellness and healthier connection is transformative.
Be easy with yourself and others as you create these new ways of interacting. Big changes come from small consistent steps. If you fall into reactivity or old patterns, simply be aware and redirect. Like anything else, with practice it will become easier and easier.
So lead with love, Dear Ones, both for yourself and those closest to you as you tackle this area of transformation, and you will be able to change your dance with others into something much more enjoyable for everyone involved. ~Archangel Gabriel through Shelley Young