We all have conversations with ourselves, most of them occurring
within the privacy of our thoughts. During these conversations we make
decisions, argue, criticize, judge, and determine the course of every
aspect of our lives and this creates our reality as well as determines
how others will connect with and relate to us. This inner dialogue plays
an important part in our lives and unfortunately, it is mostly
negative. We often don’t need someone in our lives to be mean to,
criticize and judge us; we do a good job of that ourselves. And we can
talk ourselves out of a situation before we even allow it to unfold.
This inner dialogue can follow one of two paths: it can be static,
keeping us in the same, old, negative mindset, pushing us down as soon
as we try to get up, or it can be dynamic, expansive, moving us forward,
and acting as a positive, uplifting force in our lives.
If our inner dialogue is static, it reflects our fears and doubts. For example, when you look in the mirror, do you say ‘I look great today.’ Or do you say ‘I’m overweight, look old, I hate my hair, could use a new face’, etc.? This static dialogue keeps us stuck in the same old patterns of thinking and behaving. And in order to move ourselves out of it we must change the way we talk to ourselves, then that will be reflected in the way others talk to and about us. Even though our inner dialogue is mostly private, it has an energy of its own that others pick up on. Have you noticed that if you don’t feel good about your appearance, someone will make a remark to that effect? They’re picking up on the negative energy that you are generating from your static inner dialogue.
When our inner dialogue is dynamic, it takes our fears and doubts into consideration and then moves on anyway. So, a dynamic inner dialogue would find one good thing about your appearance, no matter how small, and focus on that. Yes, you may be overweight but you have a great smile, for example, or you dress well, you are kind, have great hair, or always have something nice to say to everyone. When our inner dialogue is dynamic it creates positive energy around us so that others must respond to us in a positive way. Dynamic inner dialogue creates the energy that we need to make changes in our lives. What is the difference between the two? Imagine going on a job interview and you really want the job. You are sitting in front of the hiring manager, saying all of the right things, wearing the right clothes, but your inner dialogue is saying ‘I know I’m not going to get this job.’ What do you think the interviewer is picking up on that she will use in making the hiring decision?
This is what happens when you are trying to make positive external changes and your inner dialogue is static, or negative. It’s like trying to drive a car with one foot on the gas pedal and one foot on the brake pedal. You alternate between moving forward and stopping and not getting anywhere easily, quickly, or gracefully. The focus of our inner dialogue determines the course of our lives so we need to ensure that it is positive and dynamic, reaffirming our worth, value and perfection, staying away from criticism, judgment and negativity.
Each time a fear comes up, acknowledge it-you know it’s there so don’t try to hide or ignore it. Then find a way to change it from static to dynamic so that you can move forward through it and create what you want in your life. Once your inner dialogue is dynamic, the outer you will radiate self- confidence and joy, and you will attract people, experiences and situations that mirror the positive energy you are creating around you. This week, review your inner dialogue. Is it static or dynamic, critical or loving? Don’t judge yourself, just change the negative, judgmental, critical dialogue to one that is positive, self-affirming, and loving and watch how that change is reflected in your life and in how others relate to you.
If our inner dialogue is static, it reflects our fears and doubts. For example, when you look in the mirror, do you say ‘I look great today.’ Or do you say ‘I’m overweight, look old, I hate my hair, could use a new face’, etc.? This static dialogue keeps us stuck in the same old patterns of thinking and behaving. And in order to move ourselves out of it we must change the way we talk to ourselves, then that will be reflected in the way others talk to and about us. Even though our inner dialogue is mostly private, it has an energy of its own that others pick up on. Have you noticed that if you don’t feel good about your appearance, someone will make a remark to that effect? They’re picking up on the negative energy that you are generating from your static inner dialogue.
When our inner dialogue is dynamic, it takes our fears and doubts into consideration and then moves on anyway. So, a dynamic inner dialogue would find one good thing about your appearance, no matter how small, and focus on that. Yes, you may be overweight but you have a great smile, for example, or you dress well, you are kind, have great hair, or always have something nice to say to everyone. When our inner dialogue is dynamic it creates positive energy around us so that others must respond to us in a positive way. Dynamic inner dialogue creates the energy that we need to make changes in our lives. What is the difference between the two? Imagine going on a job interview and you really want the job. You are sitting in front of the hiring manager, saying all of the right things, wearing the right clothes, but your inner dialogue is saying ‘I know I’m not going to get this job.’ What do you think the interviewer is picking up on that she will use in making the hiring decision?
This is what happens when you are trying to make positive external changes and your inner dialogue is static, or negative. It’s like trying to drive a car with one foot on the gas pedal and one foot on the brake pedal. You alternate between moving forward and stopping and not getting anywhere easily, quickly, or gracefully. The focus of our inner dialogue determines the course of our lives so we need to ensure that it is positive and dynamic, reaffirming our worth, value and perfection, staying away from criticism, judgment and negativity.
Each time a fear comes up, acknowledge it-you know it’s there so don’t try to hide or ignore it. Then find a way to change it from static to dynamic so that you can move forward through it and create what you want in your life. Once your inner dialogue is dynamic, the outer you will radiate self- confidence and joy, and you will attract people, experiences and situations that mirror the positive energy you are creating around you. This week, review your inner dialogue. Is it static or dynamic, critical or loving? Don’t judge yourself, just change the negative, judgmental, critical dialogue to one that is positive, self-affirming, and loving and watch how that change is reflected in your life and in how others relate to you.
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.El Lenguaje de Su Realidad
Por Jennifer Hoffman
12 de Noviembre 2014
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Traducción: Fara González
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Todos tenemos conversaciones con nosotros mismos, la mayoría de ellas ocurren dentro de la privacidad de nuestros pensamientos. Durante estas conversaciones tomamos decisiones, argumentamos, criticamos, juzgamos y determinamos el curso de cada aspecto de nuestras vidas y esto crea nuestra realidad al igual que determina cómo los demás se conectarán y se relacionarán con nosotros. Este diálogo interno juega un papel importante en nuestras vidas y desafortunadamente, es mayormente negativo. A veces no necesitamos a alguien en nuestras vidas que sea desagradable con nosotros, nos critique y nos juzgue; respecto a eso nosotros mismos hacemos un buen trabajo. Y podemos hablar y hablar de una situación aun antes que permitamos que ésta se despliegue. Este diálogo interno puede seguir uno de dos caminos: puede ser estático, manteniéndonos en el mismo estado mental viejo y negativo, empujándonos hacia abajo cada vez que tratamos de levantarnos o puede ser dinámico, expansivo, de avance y que actúa como una fuerza positiva, alentadora en nuestras vidas.
Si nuestro diálogo interno es estático, refleja nuestros temores y dudas. Por ejemplo, cuando se miran al espejo, se preguntan ¿‘luzco grandioso hoy’; o dicen ‘estoy sobrepeso, parezco viejo, odio mi cabello, pudiera utilizar una nueva cara’, etc.? Este diálogo estático nos mantiene atascados en los mismos viejos patrones de pensamiento y comportamiento. Y para poder salirnos de eso debemos cambiar la manera en que nos hablamos a nosotros mismos, entonces eso se reflejará en la manera en que los demás hablan con nosotros y de nosotros. Aunque nuestro diálogo interno es mayormente privado, tiene una energía propia que los demás pueden captar. ¿Han notado que si no se sienten bien respecto a su apariencia, alguien hará un comentario al respecto? Ellos están captando la energía negativa que ustedes generan desde su diálogo estático interno.
Cuando nuestro diálogo interno es dinámico, toma en consideración nuestros temores y dudas y entonces de todas formas avanza. Así que, un diálogo interno dinámico encontraría algo bueno en su apariencia, independientemente de cuán pequeño, y se enfocaría en eso. Sí, pueden estar sobrepeso pero tienen una gran sonrisa, por ejemplo, o se visten bien, son amables, tienen un cabello hermoso o siempre tienen algo agradable que decirle a los demás. Cuando nuestro diálogo interno es dinámico, crea energía positiva a nuestro alrededor para que los demás puedan responder de manera positiva. El diálogo interno dinámico crea la energía que necesitamos para hacer cambios en nuestras vidas. ¿Cuál es la diferencia entre los dos? Imaginen que van a una entrevista para empleo y que realmente quieren ese empleo. Están sentados delante del gerente de empleo, diciendo todas las cosas correctas, vistiendo las ropas correctas, pero su diálogo interior dice ‘yo se que no voy a obtener este empleo’. ¿Qué piensan que esté captando el entrevistador y que podrá utilizar al tomar la decisión de emplearlos?
Esto es lo que sucede cuando tratan de hacer cambios positivos externos y si diálogo interior es estático o negativo. Es como tratar de manejar un auto con un pie en el pedal del acelerador y el otro en el pedal del freno. Ustedes alternan entre el avance y la parada sin llegar a ningún sitio con rapidez o gracia. El enfoque de nuestro diálogo interno determina el curso de nuestras vidas así que necesitamos asegurarnos que este es positivo y dinámico, que reafirma nuestra valía, valor y perfección, alejado de la crítica, el juicio y la negatividad.
Cada vez que surja el temor, reconózcanlo, ustedes saben que está ahí, así que no traten de ignorarlo o esconderlo. Entonces busquen la forma de cambiarlo de estático a dinámico para que puedan avanzar a través del mismo creando lo que quieran en su vida. Una vez que el diálogo interno sea dinámico, externamente ustedes irradiarán auto confianza y alegría, y atraerán a la gente, las experiencias y situaciones que reflejan la energía positiva que están creando a su alrededor. Esta semana, revisen su diálogo interno. ¿Es estático o dinámico, crítico o amoroso? No se juzguen, solamente cambien el diálogo negativo, prejuicioso y crítico a uno positivo, auto afirmativo y amoroso y vean cómo ese cambio se refleja en sus vidas y en cómo los demás se relacionan con ustedes.
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