During the course of the past several weeks I have helped some
clients learn to align with new relationships and others make their
final disconnections from the relationships they are in. While one
person is celebrating new love, another is glad that they have finally
found the courage to divorce. While they appear to be different
situations, they are the same thing, a choice about love and what
someone wants and needs to feel loved, fulfilled, and not alone. The
truth is that on spiritual and energetic levels, we are never alone but
that doesn’t translate well on an emotional level. We can feel just as
alone and lonely in a relationship as we do when we’re by ourselves,
sometimes more. The answer lies in our dreams of and visions for love.
Trying to translate our desire for love and connection in the world can feel like we’re in a foreign country whose language we don’t speak. It is impossible to connect with people because they don’t understand us and we don’t understand them. How do we relate when we can’t communicate? On a love level, we need to move from dreaming about love to having a vision for love and then putting our energy towards fulfilling that vision. Yes, it begins with loving ourselves but the next step is to change how we choose our love partners.
If we look for love because we’re alone and lonely, we are going to find someone who is in that same energetic space. We know that, it’s the Laws of Attraction and Vibration at work. We think we can connect with someone who wants love as much as we do and that will work out for us. That’s the emotional connection which is fueled by our dreams of love and our desire to not be lonely or alone. But we really need to connect with someone who shares our vision for love and who connects with us at the energy of love (which is very different from the emotion of love), so we are at a higher level of vibration that will fulfill our emotional needs as well as our vision of the kind of love we want in our life.
Have you ever noticed that when you are really hungry, you’ll eat anything, even things you wouldn’t normally eat? A slice of bread, some crackers, an apple, or a candy bar will tide you over until you can sit down for a meal. When you’re tired of being alone and lonely, and you desperately want someone in your life, anyone will do (with a few limits of course). Being driven by our emotional need for love, we will accept the first person who appears to be able to fulfill that desire. Then we try to make that relationship fulfill our vision for love and that’s when things can fall apart.
A vision for love encompasses all of the things we want in a relationship, firmly held within our energetic boundaries which define the love we want. A dream of love is a wish for any kind of love because we want to feel loved. Can we move that dream into its higher, vision state that includes how we want to be loved? Assuming that we have already done the self love work. our next step is to invite someone into our life who can resonate at the level of our self love and share our vision for love. It isn’t impossible but it requires that we stop believing that a relationship will relieve our loneliness and create a vision for love that we can invite a partner to share with us.
Only someone who resonates at the level of our vision for love will be able to share it because they have the same vision. Anyone who is feeling equally alone and lonely will be able to meet us at our level of need because they have the same need. What happens when two ‘needy’ people get together? Not a whole lot of fulfillment because neither person has the vision for love that will move the relationship out of its need state and into fulfillment.
Create your vision for love with strong energetic boundaries, and hold it close to your heart, sending it into the world so the person who can resonate with it will find you. They are seeking you as much as you are seeking them. Then you won’t feel lonely or alone and not just because you have a partner, but because you have someone in your life who supports and shares your vision for love, while being at the energetic level so you can meet each other’s needs and create a loving, fulfilling relationship whose strength and foundation lie in a shared vision for love.
Trying to translate our desire for love and connection in the world can feel like we’re in a foreign country whose language we don’t speak. It is impossible to connect with people because they don’t understand us and we don’t understand them. How do we relate when we can’t communicate? On a love level, we need to move from dreaming about love to having a vision for love and then putting our energy towards fulfilling that vision. Yes, it begins with loving ourselves but the next step is to change how we choose our love partners.
If we look for love because we’re alone and lonely, we are going to find someone who is in that same energetic space. We know that, it’s the Laws of Attraction and Vibration at work. We think we can connect with someone who wants love as much as we do and that will work out for us. That’s the emotional connection which is fueled by our dreams of love and our desire to not be lonely or alone. But we really need to connect with someone who shares our vision for love and who connects with us at the energy of love (which is very different from the emotion of love), so we are at a higher level of vibration that will fulfill our emotional needs as well as our vision of the kind of love we want in our life.
Have you ever noticed that when you are really hungry, you’ll eat anything, even things you wouldn’t normally eat? A slice of bread, some crackers, an apple, or a candy bar will tide you over until you can sit down for a meal. When you’re tired of being alone and lonely, and you desperately want someone in your life, anyone will do (with a few limits of course). Being driven by our emotional need for love, we will accept the first person who appears to be able to fulfill that desire. Then we try to make that relationship fulfill our vision for love and that’s when things can fall apart.
A vision for love encompasses all of the things we want in a relationship, firmly held within our energetic boundaries which define the love we want. A dream of love is a wish for any kind of love because we want to feel loved. Can we move that dream into its higher, vision state that includes how we want to be loved? Assuming that we have already done the self love work. our next step is to invite someone into our life who can resonate at the level of our self love and share our vision for love. It isn’t impossible but it requires that we stop believing that a relationship will relieve our loneliness and create a vision for love that we can invite a partner to share with us.
Only someone who resonates at the level of our vision for love will be able to share it because they have the same vision. Anyone who is feeling equally alone and lonely will be able to meet us at our level of need because they have the same need. What happens when two ‘needy’ people get together? Not a whole lot of fulfillment because neither person has the vision for love that will move the relationship out of its need state and into fulfillment.
Create your vision for love with strong energetic boundaries, and hold it close to your heart, sending it into the world so the person who can resonate with it will find you. They are seeking you as much as you are seeking them. Then you won’t feel lonely or alone and not just because you have a partner, but because you have someone in your life who supports and shares your vision for love, while being at the energetic level so you can meet each other’s needs and create a loving, fulfilling relationship whose strength and foundation lie in a shared vision for love.
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