This
is Judith on Friday the 13th, innundated by a Full Sagittarius Moon
that brought me a “Hit of the Day” that packs a whallop. It must also be
REALLY important to share the whallop, because its barreling out of me
with so much force that it feels like energy being released from the
nucleus of an atom.Do you know why so many relationships feel unsatisfying? It is because either one or both parties aren’t even IN it! He, she, or both in whatever combination, are not even LISTENING to the other for any reason having to do with what “relating” is all about.
Instead, they are letting their brains run them on auto-pilot, taking in only what fits into categories they already know. Which means they are not present, are not engaged, are not even WITH the other. No wonder so many relationships feel lonely!
And that is something I’ve been struggling to accept as just another painful “reality” about humans all my life. (And yeah, it HAS felt like “struggle,” accepting such intentional isolation, even from those who profess a desire to “connect.”)
But just NOW, I got that it is not something to accept any longer. Because every communication I make with another who reflects back to me that they didn’t even GET it is becoming increasingly unbearable.
And so it SHOULD.
And so I say to you, we all need to stop this nonsense. We need to stop pretending to be heard when we know we have not been. We need to stop defending against intimacy by rendering others inaudible.
Whichever side of the coin you’re on, call it. Then flip it and realize it is ONE coin, and call it THAT.
It’s a game-changer. Hallelujah for THAT.
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