It is only natural dear ones that when you choose to be friends with someone, you chose those who have similar interests. This kind of selection can also be used when someone is speaking to you. Are they speaking in soft, slow tones that are understandable, are they going too fast, or do they seem frustrated? When someone is speaking to you in soft gentle tones, it is essential to regulate your own speed that your words are being expressed and a similar tone. When the energy changes with who is speaking, so does yours.
You are encouraged dear ones to develop your communication and speech. Improving your ability to speak without causing harm and being understood by what you are saying will help to increase positive energy within your current relationships as well as the improvement on how you deliver your words will also increase your self-esteem and confidence. Remember dear ones, in order to improve how you verbally communicate you must be aware that there is a need and that you are willing to make the necessary changes that will improve the quality of your speech, and by making better choices on the vocabulary used to express what it is you are trying to say.
It is well understood dear ones that how you choose to interact and to verbally communicate with others is a contributing factor that affects all areas of your life. From how you present yourself, and by the words you choose when conversing with other dear souls regardless if it’s personal or professional can easily increase your relationship or bring further harm. All it takes is one misplaced word, or your tone of voice doesn’t match what you are trying to imply and what can manifest quickly is misunderstanding and depending on the circumstance – hostility. We are beginning to witness that many dear souls are finally beginning to understand that the little things that go into communication and interaction with others plays an important role. Awareness of yourself and of others is crucial in any environment that requires your ability to interact and verbally communicate even if that communication is in writing.
It is always up to you dear ones to change certain ways of living and being. Improving your social skills that require good verbal communication will provide better connections and will help to create a wider support network that offers respect and will influence you to continue interacting in a positive and mature manner.
At home, work, school or even just being out among others provides you many opportunities to express yourself. We encourage you to be friendly, smile when greeted and spoken to and when exchanging in conversation have your tone of voice set at friendly. If you find yourself in an area of conversation that you don’t understand, simply ask for further explanation. This tells the other person you are willing to learn and they will be willing to share and expand what they know with you. This dear ones helps create a stronger bond and trust between you and the other dear soul that is involved in a conversation. You are attracted to other people because they make you feel good and many times their presence empowers you. When you learn to work together during a conversation you help increase the level of happiness to all that is involved. When conversations go smoothly it feels good and this feel good energy is felt throughout your whole self and this energy radiates onto others.
An important factor that many dear souls forget is to think before they speak. How many times have you wished you could retract words or expressions that created heat and misunderstanding during a simple conversation? Silence is always a powerful place if you don’t understand what is being said or you don’t agree with what is being shared. As we indicated earlier, if you don’t understand what is being shared; simply ask for clarification. If you don’t agree with what is being shared, express your gratitude without being critical. You cannot erase any word spoken once they are expressed.
Pay attention to what you are thinking and before you speak put in order what it is you wish to say as clearly as possible. Respect each other during any communication. It is also understood some topics and subjects may make you uncomfortable or you don’t agree with. Be respectful of what is being shared. You might find yourself wanting to be truthful about not being comfortable or liking the subject, and when you do, choose words that will not encourage disagreement or ill-feelings. Each of you has something valid to share. Demonstrate kindness when being presented with new information and open yourself up to the possibility that what is new is nothing to be afraid of. You never know, what you may not agree with today, you may find yourself looking at tomorrow.
As you speak, it is important dear ones that you know what you are going to say. Speak clearly and effectively. The clearer you speak the less time and energy you will spend trying to explain what you are attempting to share. Many dear souls don’t like to speak directly; they like wander and speak around what they are trying to say which brings many times frustration and misunderstanding. If you are uncomfortable with speaking to others, even within written format, then ask yourself what would be the best way you can verbally communicate with others that clearly demonstrates what you are trying to say. If you are speaking unclearly, then your message will be taken unclearly.
We know you have experienced many kinds of communications and have had many conversations. Some people just like to talk. When you are having a conversation it is important to remember that a like a relationship, a conversation requires an equal supply of give and take. It is essential that all that is involved with the interaction and verbal communication is given a chance to speak. No one likes to feel left out especially if they have something valid to add. During a conversation, no one is dominate; each person is equal and needs to remember they share equally.
We know you have heard of the importance of being your authentic self. This couldn’t be any truer when you are in a conversation with someone. The other person will know if you are being genuine or not. When you speak from the heart and choose your words well each time, you discover you have attracted other people like yourself that are real and not dense. Be modest when sharing your perspectives, while giving others that are involved in the conversation with you respect and kindness. The more you practice kindness and clarity in your conversations, the more you show others your true and authentic self and we already know how beautiful this is. When you interact with others in a positive manner that enhances your relationship and inspires good feelings you are demonstrating God’s Presence that is working within you.
Be confident when you speak. When you speak with confidence, even in writing you demonstrate an appreciation in your own abilities and efforts. When you choose proper words that don’t hinder your relationship building opportunities and use a steady and nice tone of voice your confidence rises and when your confidence is raised you will be able to make eye contact and provide positive non-verbal communication.
Making eye contact during a verbal conversation when you have the person beside you is essential and helps the speaker to determine that you are interested, paying attention and most importantly listening. Your body language is read by what your voice is not saying. Are you fidgety, do you refuse to make eye contact; is your mind elsewhere, etc.? These and others can be read by the speaker through your body language and is called non-verbal communication and it plays a significant role in communication.
When you are gifted with the opportunity to converse with another dear soul remember the importance of being concise; get to the point of what you want to say. Yes it is important to think before you share what is on your mind, and when you are expressing yourself be courteous, respectful and with as few words as possible. Don’t exaggerate what you want to say, colourful adjectives don’t help your conversation, they only make it take longer to be understood. Learn how to speak in a respectful and courteous manner while at the same time being able to express the point you are trying to share.
One thing we cannot stress enough, a major factor in any conversation is developing the skill and art of listening. Not just looking at the person who is speaking but being an attentive listener. Be focused on what is being said and not to jump to conclusions. Ask questions, and become informed and more knowledgeable through each conversation. Be sincere when someone wants to talk to you, even through written communication.
If you are unwell or having a bad day then share this with the dear soul who wishes to talk with you. Communication dear ones in order to be effective requires all that is involved to pay attention. There is always a message within the message; it is up to you to teach yourself to listen to both without interrupting. Remember to ask if you are unsure, repeat what is being said with any questions as this demonstrates you were paying attention but require clarification in certain areas. Don’t assume – ask.
Really understand dear ones your words have power, they are the most powerful thing you have. How you choose to express yourself and to influence others can be felt and viewed as being good or hurtful. Communicating with others is a daily challenge, but is one that can be met and overcome if you are willing to take the necessary steps that will bring in change to this important area that affects all relationships, current and new. Ask for guidance from our Loving Father to support you and to guide you to strengthening this important and valuable asset. He will not turn you away, speak from your heart and trust in His direction.
And so it is…
I AM Ascended Master, El Morya through Julie Miller